While on the topic of my father, the only was he tries to show me he "cares" is by supplying me with material goods. Now this is not all about him, but I figure it's a good bridge. Anyway, so he gets me things and then expects me to be the kindest most loving person ever toward him. Or he'll be like "I didn't have to do/get this for you," and I think to myself how you're supposed to do nice things because you want to. It's similar to the friendzone crap. He buys me things and expects kindness back, even after he insults me and tears me down. After I'm obviously upset with him because of something mean he said, he will tell me how ungrateful I am. Apparently buying me material possessions = getting to treat me like absolute crap whenever he pleases + a kind daughter. Yeah..that's not the only time I've had a problem with boys and money.
I dated two guys (not at the same time) whose families were not on the higher end of the socioeconomic scale. In fact, one of them was on food stamps. Here's the thing: I could not care less about that. One of them always complained about not having enough money to do fun things with me. He would whine whine whine and play his precious video games (where did the money come from for that) and say, "If I had more money and I would be a better boyfriend." Yeah, sure, that's it. When did just spending time with someone you care about become boring? Talking to each other is a great way to learn more about each other and perhaps develop a deeper relationship. But nooooo we can't have that. I like going on walks or playing sports or being outside. Watching movies, poorly drawing silly pictures, singing super loud, running, learning something new, exploring, anything really. Those things are free! There were countless times I suggested that sappy crap, but apparently store bought experiences were all he wanted (or video games, who knows). My friends get no exceptions for this either because that "boring" stuff is actually how you develop relationships with people. The people in my life do not need money to impress me or entertain me. It is so easy to entertain me if you are actually interacting with me. Going out and gifts are great every once in awhile, but anyone can do that. The most awesome thing someone can do is spend one on one time doing whatever with me. That is my favorite thing, other than laughing, and we can do that together too.
My love cannot be bought. Superficial relations based off of what our finances can get us suck. Next time someone says "oh I wish we had money to do this" I'm going to draw a dollar and set it on fire in front of their face. But I will do it with a straight face and say
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